Spouse Before Kids, Employees Before Members
Marriage is hard and anyone that tells you otherwise is not married. You get married and your morning and evening routines are on a collision course with no clear winner. I have learned that brushing your teeth in the shower is what a caveman would do and there is a wrong way to load a dishwasher. You have to work hard to show love to your wife or husband. From that I learned that the effort put into planning a date was much more important that the destination and activity. My wife and I waited 7 years before having kids and those 7 years were spent learning about each other. You learn how to live with another person, you have to learn to do life with that person. Then everything changes when you have kids. WOW, it hits you like a ton of bricks! You think, how do I do this with my wife and now with kids as well? My wife and I have two little boys and it has become very clear that if I focus on my kids, my love for my wife gets pushed to the background.
That is why I choose to focus my love on my wife first and then my kids. That statement alone is shocking in so many ways. It is very hard to do and even harder to swallow but at the end of the day knowing that if I care for the relationship that came first will allow my wife and I to love, nurture and support our boys together making it so much easier on each of us.
What does this relationship translate to a credit union?
We can compare our relationships with our employees to that of our spouses then we’ll have better success with our member relationships. What if Dustin (LiFE CEO) and I focused on supporting, nurturing, and loving on our employees? What if we put our energy into making sure our employees felt empowered and had buy in with our day-to-day operations? Do you think that it would make our team able to really help our members better?
We are moving into 2018 with a goal to be different and to us that means to be counter-cultural. We want to have our credit union work as a single unit moving toward our collective goals. And that begins with us not giving orders from his office and mine, but as he and I working with our staff, to move together in our efforts to transform our credit union and its members. We want to be the difference we know our industry needs.
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